I finally did it. A few weeks ago, I took a long overdue getaway to visit two of my very best lifelong friends. I got on an airplane and flew all the way from Ft. Lauderdale, Florida to San Diego, California for four days. This took me far away from my young boys and that was hard because I am never away from them.
This trip was the first time I’ve had a girls weekend to rest, relax and slow down since before my almost 7 year old was born! I just had not made the time for myself because I had been too busy focusing on being a mom and all of the other things that come up in everyday life.
We planned our girls weekend about six months ago. I had a plane ticket and the date for my trip written on my calendar. There was no last-minute backing out. It is so easy to say you will do something and then just not follow through with it when something else comes up and real life gets in the way. But this trip was important to me and I really wanted to spend time with my friends. It was hard to admit this to myself because my boys have always come first for me and they were just not happy about me leaving. But I let go of the mommy guilt and got on the airplane.
And I had the best time!
This trip was about finding my smile and being happy about something that was just for me. The time I spent with my friends was priceless. My four days in San Diego were filled with amazing food, great conversations, red wine, peace and quiet, beautiful weather, photo taking, reading, laughing, sleeping, sunsets at the beach and walking around the farmers market. It was all that I needed to fill up my cup and to restore my mind, body and soul. It was a good lesson in taking care of myself so I can be a better mom, wife and friend.
It is about time that I start putting the oxygen mask on myself first before I give everything I have to everyone else. Since becoming a mom, I had not been a priority in my own life. I had not taken time for myself in my everyday life. But this trip helped me to see how important it is to slow down and start making the time to reconnect with my authentic self.
When is the last time you did something just for yourself? You don’t have to get on an airplane and fly across the country to reconnect with yourself. Take a little time today for yourself and read a magazine, take a hot bath or enjoy your favorite chocolate treat while watching some reality tv… Whatever it is that helps you to relax and recharge should be part of your everyday.
This article was written by Tracy Larsen.