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Hey you.

Yes, you.

Come a little closer. I have something to tell you. A secret. And you need to hear it.

You are not superwoman.

  

Even better than that, no one expects you to be superwoman. Except yourself, of course.

See, here’s the deal. The people around you? They love you. They want you to be happy. They want the best for you and they want the best of you. Which means you have to stop demanding so much of yourself.

Stop giving the best of yourself to the things that don’t matter. Start saving those best parts for the ones that love you. That need you. That want you to be happy.

How do I know this? Because I’m not superwoman either, and I’m just learning to accept that.

  

When 2011 dawned I started a new organizational system in quite an unplanned way. It wasn’t regimented or overanalyzed, it just sort of happened. My sweet husband tucked a box of sticky notes into my Christmas stocking because the little holder they came in matched my desk accessories. Those little Post-Its were just dying, begging to be used. So everyday, I used one. Monday. Tuesday. Wednesday. Thursday. Friday. Before I knew it, it was a habit. A resolution I didn’t even know I had made. Each morning I organized my thoughts with a Post It. What had to be accomplished today? Those things were placed on the list and stuck onto a convenient little spot on my desk organizer, right within my view.

And guess what I discovered?

A Post-It note is magically managable. If it fits on a Post It, it fits in my day. If not, it waits until tomorrow (or next Wednesday). Think about it. How many things can you fit onto a 3in x 3in sheet of paper? For me it’s eight (if I write small and in the margins). And I can accomplish eight things, happily, in a day.

Of course, Superwoman could do more than 8 things. But I’m not Superwoman. And you aren’t either.

Embrace it. Love it. Believe it.

You’re so much better off that way. And so are the ones that love you.

Erin Cobb

Erin has been a mama for five years, a blogger for four, and a professional photographer for 3. She hopes to be all of those things for at least another 50. She’s passionate about her family, her friends, bright colors and shooting jpeg (what?!). Those are the things that feed her soul but Erin says writing about them feels like the dessert. Erin makes her home and runs her business in Huntsville, Alabama.

About Erin


Erin has been a mama for six years, a blogger for five, and professional photographer for four. She hopes to be all of those things for at least another 50. She’s passionate about her family, her friends, bright colors and shooting jpeg (what?!). Erin is also the creative force behind the highly acclaimed Clean Color video editing tutorial. Those are the things that feed her soul but Erin says writing about them feels like the dessert. Erin makes her home and runs her business in Huntsville, Alabama.

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  • http://www.livinglavidanormal.com Gabriela – Living La Vida Normal

    I’m a bit behind on my Reader and I just got to this post. I really NEEDED to hear this today. It’s been a crazy week (my mom had a total knee replacement) and I’ve been beating myself up over the stuff that hasn’t gotten done or taken care of because I’ve been taking care of her.

    Thank you! I know I’m not superwoman but if I keep going the way I have been I’m going to die trying. It’s time to make some adjustments.

  • http://star8278.blogspot.com Lisa C

    How did you know I needed to hear this TODAY!?

    You might just be a Super Woman!

    Thank you. I am crying right now, because I have been feeling so very overwhelmed. With a 13 1/2 mo. old at home, while I work 40+ hours a week. My house is in shambles and I was starting to think my life was too.

    I realize now, I just need to get organized, prioritize and LIVE my life for me. Who cares if there are dust bunnies, they deserve to LIVE too. lol.

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  • Helen Henrichs

    I want to say thank you but I don’t think thank you suffices for liberating me from the shackles of thinking I need to be superwoman. Of course the odds of this feeling of freedom sticking around are slim because I know the unrealistic expectations of myself will come racing back, but I’ll just keep reading this post. :)

  • http://www.janellesmithphotography.com Janelle

    Wow, I really needed this today. I’ve had a hard few days and was beating myself up about catching up on everything. And after reading this post, I realised that if it doesn’t get done today, I always have tomorrow. Thankyou for posting this very inspirational idea.

  • http://www.notcaughtup.com Wendy T.

    great post! I just may have to try this. i kind of have an all encompassing to do list that i work on 1 week at a time, but maybe i’ll pull 2-4 things from that list daily and write them on a post it. thanks erin!!

  • Jessica W

    I’m just going to say ‘amen!’ and leave it at that! :-)

  • Jennifer

    I have definitely become more forgiving of myself as I’ve gotten older. Will anyone know except me if I don’t get around to dusting this weekend? Nope. Will the world collapse if I leave a pot in the sink overnight. Nope again. And you know what? My shoulders don’t feel like I left the hanger on my shirt all the time anymore!

  • Erin

    So glad you all enjoyed the article! For the record, there are 6 things on my Post It today and I’ve already conquered half of them. =)

  • http://fourgirlies.blogpsot.com Megan

    Thank you for your post today. I totally read it like it was written to me.

  • http://kellykuntz.com Kelly

    the post-it has changed my life. I started when we got home from imaging and have stuck to it everyday since. I still need my master to do list, but crossing off entire post-it makes me feel like I’ve accomplished it all.

    It is a great system I can *stick* to ;-)

  • T Pinks

    Okay. My little notebook is getting tossed. I carry it everywhere and feel like a slave to it. Post it’s sound so much better. *insert sip of coffee here* Thanks!

  • Jen

    Thank you! I have been writing my to do lists on half sheets of paper – and been overwhelmed by how much I expect myself to get done each day. I SO needed to read this. Thank you for writing it.

  • http://www.permissionlist.com Susan

    Erin-You are so right! Thanks for a great message because sometimes we all need to be given PERMISSION to not be superwoman!

  • Theresa

    Perfect

    Perfect

    JUST what i needed to read today

    I’ve printed it so I can read it again before I go to bed!

    Thanks

  • Beth

    Just what I needed to hear this Monday morning! Thanks Erin!

  • http://things-i-love-blog.blogspot.com/ Amanda

    Absolutely adorable! I too use Post-It notes every day of my life – they are magical little pieces of paper.

  • http://celebratetodayonline.com Julie

    Beautiful words and a wonderful message! I’m so glad I saw this today!