Come a little closer. I have something to tell you. A secret. And you need to hear it.
You are not superwoman.
Even better than that, no one expects you to be superwoman. Except yourself, of course.
See, here’s the deal. The people around you? They love you. They want you to be happy. They want the best for you and they want the best of you. Which means you have to stop demanding so much of yourself.
Stop giving the best of yourself to the things that don’t matter. Start saving those best parts for the ones that love you. That need you. That want you to be happy.
How do I know this? Because I’m not superwoman either, and I’m just learning to accept that.
When 2011 dawned I started a new organizational system in quite an unplanned way. It wasn’t regimented or overanalyzed, it just sort of happened. My sweet husband tucked a box of sticky notes into my Christmas stocking because the little holder they came in matched my desk accessories. Those little Post-Its were just dying, begging to be used. So everyday, I used one. Monday. Tuesday. Wednesday. Thursday. Friday. Before I knew it, it was a habit. A resolution I didn’t even know I had made. Each morning I organized my thoughts with a Post It. What had to be accomplished today? Those things were placed on the list and stuck onto a convenient little spot on my desk organizer, right within my view.
And guess what I discovered?
A Post-It note is magically managable. If it fits on a Post It, it fits in my day. If not, it waits until tomorrow (or next Wednesday). Think about it. How many things can you fit onto a 3in x 3in sheet of paper? For me it’s eight (if I write small and in the margins). And I can accomplish eight things, happily, in a day.
Of course, Superwoman could do more than 8 things. But I’m not Superwoman. And you aren’t either.
Embrace it. Love it. Believe it.
You’re so much better off that way. And so are the ones that love you.
Erin has been a mama for five years, a blogger for four, and a professional photographer for 3. She hopes to be all of those things for at least another 50. She’s passionate about her family, her friends, bright colors and shooting jpeg (what?!). Those are the things that feed her soul but Erin says writing about them feels like the dessert. Erin makes her home and runs her business in Huntsville, Alabama.