Kika touched on something recently that I’ve been thinking a lot about, the kindred-spirit friendships. Wikipedia describes this as: Someone who shares similar thoughts, feelings, someone who is close in temperament and nature to yourself, to whom you have a rare spiritual link that is very special and you can’t quite explain.
I describe it as: someone who shares your soul.
Having these kinds of relationships is vital. They nourish us, and hold us when we can’t seem to hold ourselves. They remember the tiniest of details, and they know just when to step in and just what to do. As women we crave this type of companionship, and rightfully so! Whether you are a college student, a new wife, a sister, a mother, a grandmother – whatever walk of life you are in, we can truly benefit from the love and heart of a dear friend.
Our cell phones are full of phone numbers, our inboxes full of emails – but if you sit back and really think it through… just how many of those contacts shares your soul? Who was the first you called to announce your engagement? Which was there for the birth of your newborn? Should you experience illness or death, who could you count on to be right over – rain or shine? I wonder, are these types of friends out there and we don’t notice, could we be overlooking a possible heart to heart because our own lives are too busy to pause and encourage that friendship to blossom? I’ve been guilty of the latter on many occasion, and I look back wondering what beautiful thing I possibly missed.
I am blessed to have women in my life with whom I can share my soul. The beauty in it is, these relationships have blossomed over time and in different and meaningful ways. This wasn’t the case for me years ago though. I went through a difficult time where my idea of kindred friendship was far too warped. Thankfully, time heals us and we grow and evolve into who we are today. I now have a group of women with whom I DO share births, and tears, and love, and life. I wouldn’t trade them for the world.
Just as we put our energy into our husbands, and our children, and our work – our friendships need to be nourished and given the love and encouragement they deserve.
Do you have a kindred-spirit friend? If so, how would you encourage another who is seeking this? Love to hear your comments!
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