I have tried to write this 4 times, and it never comes out the way that I want it to.
This week has been nothing short of amazing. I was so scared to hit publish when I shared my story with the world. I had kept it a secret for so long, that it felt strange to tell it for the first time to the Internet. But sharing my story helped heal me in some ways. 4 years later, I realize that I was not alone, and there were so many other women struggling alongside me. Our wish is that women will be able to share their stories with other mothers. Let them know that they are not alone, and that we all are in this together. There is no shame in what you are going through.
If you are suffering in silence, or just struggling, we beg you to get help. Husbands, mothers, doctors, midwives, friends, relatives, church leaders, whoever you feel comfortable going to, please just go.
If you suspect that someone you know is struggling, please be patient with her. There is a good chance that she is not sure what she is going through herself. Be a good friend. Offer to bring her a meal. Be sensitive. Take her baby for a bit so that she can rest. Stay connected. Clean her house or do a load of laundry. Just listen. Take her out for a walk. Bring her flowers for no reason. Drop off a Starbucks. Take her out for lunch or dinner. Just please do not give up on her.
Ask her to seek help. There is a good chance that this will be met with resistance, or even anger. Encourage her to speak to a professional that can help her get the help that she needs. For herself and for her baby.
Thank you for sharing your stories in the comments. We were honored that you shared them with us.
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